I think this speech went over her daughter's head, but the point is that it has resonated with many other mothers who are trying to juggle family, work and self life.
People can decide what they want to do with their lives obviously, some have children, some don't. I've always thought I'd be in the latter team, but now I don't really mind the thought of having one. Also, I was so self-absorbed in my 20s that obviously marriage was out of the question. But I always knew that I envisioned and even envied 30-somethings because I knew that many of them have got their shit together and have been past the dramas and they're settling into a nice quiet life. Now I'm pretty much open to both ideas of marriage and children. Who knew?
I also have been thinking of doing a mid-career switch, which brings me to my point of going back to school in the fall and into Urban Planning. While I'm super grateful and will probably keep using my skills I learned as a Graphic Designer and Web Designer, freelancing isn't for me, and I've had a growing interest in public transit, design and how a city works. My current job has allowed me to see this new side and I had actually previously applied for this major like 10 yrs ago as a second or third choice. So, I suppose it's come full circle. I've been dancing around going back to school for a while, but I didn't want to go back until I was sure what I wanted to major in, as well as knowing I would be much more motivated at this stage than I was when I was in my 20s. Working for a city on a provincial or federal level would be pretty good in the long run, education costs are incredibly low and I could always get a Masters elsewhere in the country for a fraction of the cost that I would need in the US. So, I have some progress in the direction of my career, unlike Graphic Design in which I couldn't see my 40-50yr old self trying to sustain myself on freelance contracts, a nice governmental job would be much more suitable. In the arts, benefits aren't really offered, freelancing is a crapshoot, but it's a flexible job and you could work just about anywhere in the world with those skills. Which would be fine if you're dedicated and love to travel around the world when you're young, but your perspective changes when you're looking into the future, if you wanted to have a family or buy a home, it's just not really possible unless you're a Creative Director or founder of your own company, or are incredibly talented. I'm neither, and have no interest in creating my own company. It might be a long time in the making, I'm sure I should've figured this out sooner, but were it not for my path in Graphic Design and how my life turned out, I wouldn't have met Cory. If I had stuck to Urban Planning from the get-go, I probably would still be single, I would've never have gone to Los Angeles, or traveled to Asia for work and have experienced the life that I did. So I don't regret going into this new direction now. Not one bit. I'm glad I have those experiences under my belt, maybe it could be useful in the future, who knows. I know how hard I worked to gain my independence here and abroad, so no one can take that away from me. If all goes well in the fall, I may go as a full time student to finish this as quickly as possible. Only time will tell and I get excited just thinking about it!